Clairvoyance + Grief: An Interview with Patty Cooper
After my father's death I became extremely interested in (re)connecting with him, first through mediums and other forms of metaphysical work, and then through exploring my own intuitive abilities.
I think the desire to connect to those who are no longer physically present is natural and beautiful, but it can also be confusing and daunting and even a bit frightening when you don't really know what to expect or how to do it. To help explain the unseen in her gentle way, I was thrilled to speak with writer and clairvoyant healer Patty Cooper about connection, intuition, clairvoyance, and ultimately healing.
A bit about Patty: she is a Los Angeles based graduate of the Embodied Wisdom Institute Art of Leadership Mastery program, a Certified Newfield Network Ontological Coach and a graduate of Invision, a school for psychic meditation, healing and clairvoyance.
She loves to travel and experience new cultures, learn new things and spend time with family and friends. Her mission with all her clients is to help them develop their own intuitive abilities to so that they can navigate and create lives that they love.
So what is clairvoyance?
The way I experience clairvoyance is the ability to see energy in colors, pictures or moving images, especially energetic patterns and how those patterns could affect the body or future events. When I am in conversation with someone and I see an image or a picture or hear something behind what they are saying, it's like their soul is speaking to me.
Grief can make us especially fragile and vulnerable. When is the appropriate time for someone to seek a clairvoyant?
That is a good question and so personal. A friend of mine came to me a few years ago asking this same thing. She had just lost her mother. She desperately wanted to connect with her mom and wanted my input on finding a local intuitive to help her do that. I told her we often think we have to go to a third party to help us speak to our departed loved ones. We don't trust that we have the skills to do it on our own. If we are quiet, it we are observant, if we release our thinking from what is right in front of us, we can connect.
I also think it can be very beneficial to see a clairvoyant. In powerful shifts in identity and transition, we are not meant to go through it alone. Here are the things I always advise people to keep in mind when seeking a clairvoyant:
- Set your intention.
- Get references from people you trust. This could be a stranger that you meet by chance and you feel compelled to share your story with them.
- Trust your intuition.
- Keep an open heart and release the outcome.
As far as a right time, I can't answer that. It really depends on the emotional state. If you seek in desperation, you could be more susceptible to being taken advantage of. There are so many terrains of grief, if you find yourself on level ground that could be a great time to meet with a clairvoyant.
Are there time or states of emotion that may not be appropriate for someone to work with a clairvoyant?
The emotions I would be wary of are desperation, severe anxiety or obsessive thinking and guilt. These emotional states can make us overextend ourselves and place the authority of our well being into someone else's hands.
What does a typical session look like? What should someone expect (or not expect!)?
Generally, the medium/clairvoyant/healer and the recipient are seated across from one another. The reader should really only be asking for your name at the beginning of the session - that's it. Some clairvoyants read with their eyes closed so they can focus on the energy and not what they physically see in front of them. Others read with their eyes open. Sessions can be anywhere from half and hour to an hour long. If the clairvoyant is asking for more details, they are fishing for information. If they ask you questions like "do you understand?", they are wanting you to validate what they are saying. If at any time, you don't feel safe or that the clairvoyant is way off, you have the power to end the session and leave.
How can clairvoyance help someone specifically with grief?
What clairvoyants are especially good at is saying hello to the person exactly where they are in present time. For anyone experiencing grief, to be able to receive a hello, in the midst of tremendous loss and pain when a person can feel totally isolated alone, is a powerful thing. The clairvoyant's ability to say I see you. I see exactly where you are. I will hold space for you to experience and have your feelings. I will hold space for you so that you can heal yourself.
what do you think happens after we die?
When I think about leaving the physical body, I think of being relieved of all physical and emotional pain. It would be a feeling of the most sublime relief. Nagging thoughts of not being good enough or wanting to be better or more would be lifted away. I sense amusement, lightness and freedom. I think of dying as a transition into the next state of being and onward to the next journey. Energy cannot be created or destroyed. It is reshaped, repurposed and reimagined. The patterns continue until they are broken and new patterns begins.
Grief is commonly talked about in emotional stages (which can often come in cycles), and each stage can require very different forms of self care. How can intuition or clairvoyance be used through these stages?
No one can take away anyone's emotions of grief, but a clairvoyant definitely can help in the healing process. The most powerful experiences I've had with clients are the ones who have been in denial. They taken so much care to control every aspect of their lives. There's no room for much else. I can see where they are holding and by energetically opening the space for them, it helps them to release and express the emotions that they've been trying to control. It allows for the rest of the cycle to happen and healing to take place. Grief can be so lonely and to sit with someone else who is in total acceptance of you and what you're feeling is very healing.
What tips do you have for someone wanting to strengthen their own intuition?
Everyone has clairvoyant abilities. It can be nurtured and strengthened. My abilities have always been high. I was a super sensitive kid. I still am. Having a regular mindfulness practice is very beneficial whether that's yoga, mediation, gratitude journal, listening and trusting the inner voice or grounding/centering exercises. I would also say look into a school or classes that teach clairvoyance so that you can be learn in a community with others. I went to a school for clairvoyance and meditation in Chicago. They didn't teach me to be clairvoyant. They taught me techniques that I could use to hone my clairvoyance and gave me lots of opportunity to practice by doing readings and healings.
What resources do you recommend for someone interested in learning more about clairvoyance?
There are a ton of books and blogs out there and so many ways clairvoyants practice. I would start with what your curious about. It could be chakras, astral healing, akashic records, healing guides, medical intuition, crystals and more. There's a great bookstore in Venice called Mystic Journey. It's a great resource. I also love communicating with others about subjects I want to learn more about. I learn so much. I send messages out to the universe and they come back in ways I could never have expected. I don't read or listen to blogs much on clairvoyance. I would recommend reading books on mythology, archetypes and the hero's journey.
What have you found most personally helpful to you through grief, loss, or heart aches?
The most helpful thing for me is to allow myself to fully experience and express the loss and heartache and not try to suppress or change it into something else. I remember one time sitting with a friend and saying, "Well I suppose I should feel gratitude for the horrible thing that has just happened." My friend said, "Patty, it's too soon for gratitude." He was absolutely right. To truly honor myself and my loss, I had to be angry. I had to be sad. I had to be everything that I needed that moment to be so that I could truly heal and move on.
People so often want to take away sadness or shift it immediately to something positive. Distraction or forcing a "positive attitude" doesn't help the pain to heal, in fact, it delays healing. It also helps to be with friends or healers who I truly trust. Having physical touch at times of loss, can be very healing. Learning how to receive in grief and let someone care for me has been a constant lesson for me.
Where are you located, and how can someone schedule a session with you?
I live in Los Angeles. If someone is interested in scheduling a session, they can email me at email@example.com. I'll respond in 24 hours.
I do sessions in person and by video chat or phone.